Sometimes we become so wounded and low on the emotional scale that when someone suggest reaching for hope, happiness, and excitement, we feel it just can't be done. It actually is too big of a leap to make emotionally and most of the time is not a reasonable request.
So let's start where you are and climb up from there. If you are sad, angry, jealous, or fearful, just reach for peace. How? That begins with full acceptance of your current circumstance. When you can full accept each situation as is, the mind will stop judging and labeling the situation as good or bad and will stop torturing you by replaying the memory of the situation, or telling you what someone else is doing or thinking. You just say "Ok, this happened. It's over now. I know I can't go back in time and do anything to change what has already happened. I refuse to allow my mind to take me down to low places and keep me in low places regarding this situation by telling me lies, distorting the truth, and creating an emotional wound." Emotional wounds are created when we accept a lie the mind tells, as truth.
Each time the mind brings this issue back to your attention, firmly state, "that's over. I am now at peace." If you are not yet at peace just by affirming this statement, meaning you can still feel a bothered or disturbed feeling in your body, then you already have a wound here that is being agitated. You've accepted a belief about yourself at some point during your life, that is untrue and causing dysfunction. It's time to release a trapped emotion regarding the issue.
To do this.. first bring up the emotion in your body as strong as you can. Gauge it from 1-10. 10 is "I'm about to explode!" 1 is "I'm really fine. I feel nothing". Pull the emotion up by using memory or letting the mind talk to you about the situation. Try to hold the intensity of the emotion as a feeling in your body. Really feel it in your body as strong as you can make it using the mind and memory. The key is focusing on the feeling, not the words used by the mind. When you try to hold the feeling, you realize you can't without the feeling being fed by the mind. Then the mind begins to run out of ammunition, and the feeling begins to fade. When you purposefully try to hold the intensity, the strength of the emotion begins to fade and soon die.
You will soon find that bringing old thoughts and memories to mind regarding this issue, fail at creating an emotional response within you. Now you can repeat the old story and feel nothing. It has just become something that happened once and is no longer a part of the identity of you. The emotion has been released and the wound cleared out. To heal the wound completely, speak some truth. Tell yourself the truth about that old situation, and it will now be a thing of the past. Wound healed. A.J.
Angie Johnsey is a speaker, author and world-renowned Mind expert. A hypnotherapist and psychiatric nurse by trade, Angie assists clients all over the world to become aware of their mental and emotional patterns, bring clarity and peace to lives that were once full of stress and suffering, and choose the feelings they would like to have to transform their lives.