Two Things Need to Happen to Tidy Your Mind.

ONE. Release Deep Pain.
Although your mind may tell you that this is an impossible task and you will just be broken or messed up forever because of a past experience, it is not true. Deep pain is usually only 20% of the reason your mind is creating emotional suffering. See, it's never as big and bad as your mind makes it out to be.

HOW: You can start with the Learn to Tidy and Relax Your Mind Course and also work with me One on One to work through deep pain.

TWO. Break Bad Mental Habits.
Our mind develops some destructive mental habits in efforts to get it's needs met as a child. You are also genetically predisposed to think a certain way and make certain assumptions that can result in bad habits. Bad Mental Habits make up the other 80% of the cause for your mind creating emotional suffering. This is actually good news as helping your mind step away from these habits usually only takes awareness of them and consistent redirection.

HOW: The NeverMind Blog is designed to help you find your habits and help you step away from them.. to retrain your mind to think and behave in a different way. It will also help you to understand the minds of those you are in relationship with.. and how they think very differently to you...and this is normal. Just as there are different body shapes, the minds that go with those shapes all have a unique way of thinking and perceiving the world around them. Here are the 3 Mind Habit Categories.

1. Never Satisfied- Sensors & Crusaders
2. Problem Finding- Activators & Connectors
3. Trust Issues- Guardians & Diplomats

The dreaded basement.
When I work with clients one on one to tidy their mind, there comes a point in every session after we have discussed what is going on in their current situations.. or their people room.. where I say.. ok, are you ready to go in the basement and find the box this is opening now? The response is usually an astounding... NO!!! not the basement.

It’s like asking a child if they are ready for you to get that splinter out of their finger. They do.. but they don’t. They want the relief from the pain but sometimes we have to push through pain to get to the relief on the other side. This is what is happening for you emotionally as you go in the basement to deal with your pain of the past.

Pain of the past… ughhh.. just mentioning that seems overwhelming and exhausting.
Yes, I know. None of us want to think about that old stuff. "I’ve already dealt with it!!!".. you say.
We would rather just ignore it, shove it in a box in the corner, deny what we feel, etc… but it’s not going anywhere until you clean it out. If you have unwanted behaviours, you have a box. If you have emotional outburst or reactivity, you have a box. If you have emotional pain, you have a box. You and your mind are the only ones who can actually release it and let it go. I can go with you or give you the tools to give you step by step instructions on how to throw it out and release it, but only your mind can actually chose to do it.


An important point to clarify.
We are not going into the basement to dig out old memories for the purpose of wallowing in the pain of that memory. No. We are going into the basement and dragging out that painful box and all of it’s memories for the sole intention of clearing it and releasing it.

There is a time and place for past room basement visits. You must be ready. You must be strong and clear in your intentions for going into those memories in the basement. You must hold yourself grounded as the role of the caretaker.

Even though the Learn to Tidy and Relax your Mind course teaches you how to go into the basement and clean out those boxes or those deeper wounds, I don’t suggest doing it alone until you are ready. You know you are ready when you are able to consistently see the voice of your mind as separate from who you are.


Why do we even bother with these boxes?
These boxes not only hold past pain, they also hold your belief systems..including the things you believed about yourself from your perceptions and experiences as a child. The boxes hold lies, and misunderstandings about you and others. These boxes directly impact and control your behaviours as an adult. Ever witnessed yourself acting childish and wondered why? The reason for this is there was a box opened in your basement. Once its opened and the pain starts to pour out, it's incredibly difficult if not impossible to control your reactions and behaviours.


How do the boxes get opened?
These boxes in the past room basement are either opened by a situation or person in your people room or intentionally opened by you for the purpose of cleaning them out and releasing them. So even though you may be avoiding going into the past room or basement until you are grounded and ready in your belief that you are not the mind, someone in your people room may unintentionally open it for you. This is why we do the work. As long as the boxes are there and full of past stuff, there is a potential for pain, emotional reactivity, and unwanted behaviours.

Take the Learn to Tidy and Relax your Mind course to get prepared for your basement clean out!

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