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do the tidy mind 2 step.

6/24/2020

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Two Things Need to Happen to Tidy Your Mind.

ONE. Release Deep Pain.
Although your mind may tell you that this is an impossible task and you will just be broken or messed up forever because of a past experience, it is not true. Deep pain is usually only 20% of the reason your mind is creating emotional suffering. See, it's never as big and bad as your mind makes it out to be.

HOW: You can start with the Learn to Tidy and Relax Your Mind Course and also work with me One on One to work through deep pain.

TWO. Break Bad Mental Habits.
Our mind develops some destructive mental habits in efforts to get it's needs met as a child. You are also genetically predisposed to think a certain way and make certain assumptions that can result in bad habits. Bad Mental Habits make up the other 80% of the cause for your mind creating emotional suffering. This is actually good news as helping your mind step away from these habits usually only takes awareness of them and consistent redirection.

HOW: The NeverMind Blog is designed to help you find your habits and help you step away from them.. to retrain your mind to think and behave in a different way. It will also help you to understand the minds of those you are in relationship with.. and how they think very differently to you...and this is normal. Just as there are different body shapes, the minds that go with those shapes all have a unique way of thinking and perceiving the world around them. Here are the 3 Mind Habit Categories.
  1. Never Satisfied- Sensors & Crusaders
  2. Problem Finding- Activators & Connectors
  3. Trust Issues- Guardians & Diplomats

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The Past Room. What's in Your Basement?

6/17/2020

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The dreaded basement.
When I work with clients one on one to tidy their mind, there comes a point in every session after we have discussed what is going on in their current situations.. or their people room.. where I say.. ok, are you ready to go in the basement and find the box this is opening now? The response is usually an astounding... NO!!! not the basement.

It’s like asking a child if they are ready for you to get that splinter out of their finger. They do.. but they don’t. They want the relief from the pain but sometimes we have to push through pain to get to the relief on the other side. This is what is happening for you emotionally as you go in the basement to deal with your pain of the past.

Pain of the past… ughhh.. just mentioning that seems overwhelming and exhausting.
Yes, I know. None of us want to think about that old stuff. "I’ve already dealt with it!!!".. you say.

We would rather just ignore it, shove it in a box in the corner, deny what we feel, etc… but it’s not going anywhere until you clean it out. If you have unwanted behaviours, you have a box. If you have emotional outburst or reactivity, you have a box. If you have emotional pain, you have a box. You and your mind are the only ones who can actually release it and let it go. I can go with you or give you the tools to give you step by step instructions on how to throw it out and release it, but only your mind can actually chose to do it.


An important point to clarify.
We are not going into the basement to dig out old memories for the purpose of wallowing in the pain of that memory. No. We are going into the basement and dragging out that painful box and all of it’s memories for the sole intention of clearing it and releasing it.

There is a time and place for past room basement visits. You must be ready. You must be strong and clear in your intentions for going into those memories in the basement. You must hold yourself grounded as the role of the caretaker.

Even though the Learn to Tidy and Relax your Mind course teaches you how to go into the basement and clean out those boxes or those deeper wounds, I don’t suggest doing it alone until you are ready. You know you are ready when you are able to consistently see the voice of your mind as separate from who you are.


Why do we even bother with these boxes?
These boxes not only hold past pain, they also hold your belief systems..including the things you believed about yourself from your perceptions and experiences as a child. The boxes hold lies, and misunderstandings about you and others. These boxes directly impact and control your behaviours as an adult. Ever witnessed yourself acting childish and wondered why? The reason for this is there was a box opened in your basement. Once its opened and the pain starts to pour out, it's incredibly difficult if not impossible to control your reactions and behaviours.



How do the boxes get opened?
These boxes in the past room basement are either opened by a situation or person in your people room or intentionally opened by you for the purpose of cleaning them out and releasing them. So even though you may be avoiding going into the past room or basement until you are grounded and ready in your belief that you are not the mind, someone in your people room may unintentionally open it for you. This is why we do the work. As long as the boxes are there and full of past stuff, there is a potential for pain, emotional reactivity, and unwanted behaviours.

Take the Learn to Tidy and Relax your Mind course to get prepared for your basement clean out!

Be sure to connect with me on all those social places. I would love to hear from you and learn more about you and your mind!
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What does your mind need from you?

6/17/2020

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What I am about to suggest may seem a little odd or be judged as "ego building", however, I feel it is a necessary exercise to do as often as necessary if were are to fulfill our own mental and emotional needs instead of looking for others to do that for us. Wait.... what??? Others aren't supposed to meet my needs? Nope, that's your job.
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OUR MINDS NEED WHAT THEY NEED. Even if we think they shouldn't.. the need is still there.

I think if these needs are met from others.. then yes, it's EGO BUILDING and creates an ego addiction to be supported by others.
However, if it comes from ourselves, within our internal dialogue, it's CONFIDENCE BUILDING and creates no dependency.. only fulfillment and feelings of safety.

What I would like to suggest is the following experiment.
Each day, talk to your DJ/mind as the caretaker. 
Spend two minutes fulfilling it's mental & emotional needs with kind and supportive inner dialogue.
If you don't know what a DJ is, you might enjoy getting to know your Mind House by taking the course.

This is a very big part of building a strong and healthy inner relationship built on self love.

HERE IS A HINT TO A NEED YOUR DJ/MIND MIGHT BE LOOKING TO HAVE MET BY OTHERS. You will need to find out your Health Type so you can know what category you fall in.


Sensors & Crusaders- Recognition of Achievements.
Give me recognition- respect even, for this massive thing I have accomplished! Be proud of me.

Activators & Connectors- Praise for Creations.
Look what I have made, created, invented, done. Tell me how amazing my creation is and how smart I am to have thought of it.

Guardians & Diplomats- Appreciation for the Gift of Sacrifice/Service.
Notice the value I bring and all that I do quietly in the background so everyone else can feel good and have what they need.

Once this part of you begins receiving a regular dose of what it needs, you may find certain unwanted behaviors change and it becomes more quiet and relaxed.

Also if you have small children.. it's your job to find out what category they fall in and meet their mental and emotional needs until they can, then teach them how to give it to themselves as they grow.

Give it a try.
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    Hey, it's me!!..Angie Johnsey. You may have seen me with Valerie Bertinelli on the Today Show being called the "mind coach". I love helping people like you find relief from all of the "crazy making" that our minds can get in to..Did you hear about the Tidy Mind Map? Yep, I'm kind of the personal organizer for your mind. I'm glad you are here.. I have so much to share with you. Pull up a chair, let me help you unwind your mind, and let's hang out.

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