Don't feel loved? Do you have walls up?

I didn't realize until our last live session this past Friday, just how many walls I have had up over my lifetime. After I realized how and why we build those walls, I was able to see it clearly. Once you can see and understand what "walls" you off from connection and feeling and giving love to others, you can then start to tear those walls down once and for all. This allows love to flow both from you and to you.

In our session, I discussed 4 ingredients or bricks that can build those walls of distance and separation.
(our focus in this session is the resentment brick)
Our bricks consist of:

1. Fear: you might do something to me that will hurt me emotionally, mentally, or physically. I don't trust you not to hurt me. I don't feel safe with you. You might be critical, judge, disapprove, reject, or abandon me. Other people in my past hurt me, so you probably will too.
2. Shame: low self worth or self hatred- because of what I did to you in the past, or because of the kind of person that I am, I don't deserve anything, much less your love. I am not worthy of love. I haven't been good enough to earn any love.
3. Resentments/Hate: I am still so angry or really bothered by something that you did, so I am not letting you in. I have not forgiven you. I am not finished hating you. The argument is still not finished or resolved in my mind. I didn't get the resolution that I wanted or needed.
4. Personal Differences: I don't agree with what you did or what you think or what you believe, therefore we can't be close. I think you have to agree with me and hold the same fundamental beliefs as me before I can or will share love with you.

As I mention in the video, there may be more bricks but these are the ones that I have identified for now and I feel it covers most areas of things that create separation in relationships.

In our session, I give you the 3 step process for beginning to bring these walls down and yes, you guessed it, it all starts with self love. Being able to reconnect with your own inner child and love it completely is the core of this work.

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​Join me again next Friday Dec. 18th at 12pm cst for Session 3: Walls vs Healthy Boundaries or be sure to check back here next week for the replay:)