FREEitudes

I speak in personal sessions about "staying in the safety circle with God." You can insert source, universe, higher self, but I like to use the word God.

I use the analogy that being self realized or living in a state of awake consciousness is being able to "do life" and stay in the circle with God at the same time.
This circle is the safe place to be while doing life. Here you are free from drama, emotional suffering, confusion, uncertainty, doubt and fear.
Inside the circle we know life is happening for us.
Outside the circle, we feel life is happening to us.

There are only 3 things you must remember to stay in the circle.
​If you aren't strong and grounded in all 3, you can be lured out of the circle by the voice of fear or the mind. Once lured out, you now enter into a drama with the world of mind and add to the fear of the world, also known as creating karma, until you remember the 3 rules and become strong enough to apply them. Then back in the circle you go.

Here are the 3 things you must remember and gain spiritual strength to stay aligned with God:

1. Love God
2. Love Others
3. Love Yourself

Refuse to do even just one of these, and you are out of the circle.

To become strong in all three we must love all three. To love all three, we must deeply know and understand all three. When we know God, we know all three because others and yourself are both extensions of God.
When we know God, we know and hold the attitudes of God. I call these FREEitudes.


See yourself now in the circle with God. Standing in love. Standing in peace. Standing in relief. Standing in safety. Standing in knowing. Standing in clarity. Standing in true power.
It's a small circle.
We call what surrounds this circle the fear zone.

Now listen to what the fear voice is whispering to you from just outside the boundaries of this circle. That voice wants us to believe we are safer with it than we are with God.
The voice of fear is constantly trying to trick us and lure us out of the God zone.
It will convince us to judge others. Out we go.
It will convince us to hate others. Out we go.
It will convince us to mistrust others. Out we go.
It will convince us to just figure out our own plan and make it happen instead of trusting that when with God the directions will come in divine timing. Out we go.
It will convince us that we deserve things or are entitled to certain treatment by others. Out we go.

The list of things we can be lured out of the circle by is long and large. What's important here is that you find your weak points and strengthen them by adopting Godittudes.


The lure of Needing to Assign Meaning
Things the voice of fear will trick you into believing:

• When they did this or this, it meant that they are starting to love you less
• It means they are shutting you out and no longer want or love you
• I need to assign meaning to the role they play for me so I can know what to expect of them- See Godittude #9

The lure of Entitlement or Deserving
Things the voice of fear will trick you into believing:

• But I deserve more than that.
• I am settling for less than I deserve.
• They should do this or that because that’s what I would do.
• The least they could do is apologize, say thank you, acknowledge me, respect me, etc.
• What they did or didn’t do hurt my feelings.
• They never think about my feelings, and my needs.
• They are selfish and don’t care about my happiness, only their own.
• They are my family, husband, wife, etc. The ones who are supposed to love me should at least do xyz. They owe me that.

FREEitude #9 Those who are aligned with the attitudes of God never feel they are owed anything. They give as God gives, freely and unconditionally, expecting nothing in return.
Judging others as inconsiderate is saying, they owe me something, whether it be consideration, courtesy, or whatever the behavior is that you are expecting. You act by your rules and beliefs. They act by their rules and beliefs. If you make your rules right, you make their rules wrong. This is conditional. Conditions do not exist in the safety circle with God. Just because you would act a certain way or do a certain thing, does not mean they owe you that same behavior. They owe you nothing. If you can remember this, you will stay with God and safe from egoic pain of expecting behaviors from others. God has no expectations. You must have no expectations. We do not control people or their behaviors. They are free to do or not to do. You are free to do or not to do. However, a behavior that will come naturally to you as you stay in the circle with God, is you will love unconditionally.

FREEitude #10 The "More" of life is God’s to give. The more is received by those who are ready for and can handle the more. More comes not from thinking we deserve something but because we “expect nothing and appreciate everything”. We totally accept what is. We not only accept what is, but we find something to appreciate about what is. This is the attitude we have that opens the door to more and God sends the more through when we are ready and firmly grounded in this attitude. If we begin expecting the more, we close the door for more to come through. Wanting more blocks more from coming. It's when we stop wanting and start appreciating that more is given.