Every thought is a story told by the mind to the ego or inner child.
If you are reading this because you are hurt, upset, confused, and need relief, chances are your mind has not been very loving, compassionate, understanding, or patient with it's child.
It's important that you know, what you truly are is the spiritual adult.
Yes, right now. No action required. The spiritually mature, enlightened guru resides within you right now. You are complete. You are love. No fear exist. Nothing needs fixed. There are no issues.
However, you are attached to a child who is prone to fear.. we all are. The only difference between you and those we label as guru's or spiritual masters is they have learned a way to keep their child calm and quiet ...leaving them free to experience peace, behave as the spiritual adult, and act from their hearts more of the time. We encounter their guru far more often than we encounter their child.
Every step we take towards enlightenment, every tool we use, is to calm and quieten the child in order to hear and more fully embody the heart..to allow our inner Guru to emerge from within us and interact with the world.
We meditate to calm the child. We attend sweat lodge, go to healers, attend retreats, dance in circles, stand on our heads, take drugs, drink alcohol, do anything and everything anyone suggest because we are so desperate to calm and quieten the child.
How to manage the ego.
The objective to the game of life is to help the ego or child feel safe, better, good, and ok...giving it the happiest experience possible. The life experience was made for the child's entertainment...and the stories the mind tells the child determines if that experience is painful or pleasurable.
Stop the cause of the pain.
Whatever you are going through emotionally right now is because the child is upset and feeling unsafe. Realize the thing that is scaring the child and creating those painful feelings is a very scary story. Stop telling or entertaining that story immediately.
Sometimes the stories the child entertains is a good story, a love story, and sometimes its a horror story. Both are created by the mind written in thoughts.
Scary, negative thoughts create a horror story where your ego/child is the victim. Loving, positive thoughts create a love story where your ego/child is the hero. One story makes the ego or child feel good. The other story upsets and scares the child.
Learn the positive spin.
Tell the child a better story. Stories are for children. The part of you that needs the story is the ego or the inner child. This game belongs to the ego. You play it to humor the ego.
The real part of you, the heart or the spiritual adult, doesn't need the story or the entertainment. The heart doesn't need anything. Realize you are correcting the story for the ego or the inner child's sake to keep it feeling calm and safe.
Put a positive spin on the current reality to distract the child from the scary uncomfortable parts.
Just as you wouldn't tell a child, "Hey! I'm going to put you in the car, strap you in, take you to see adults you don't know, and have them stick you with needles."
Instead you would say.. "Hey! lets go on a fun adventure to see the nurse that loves you so much that she is going to help you stay well..I will be with you the whole time. Then we can go for a treat!.."
Your inner child will require the positive spin not the hard cold facts. Part of you will say, but that's just me lying to myself. Actually, you are calming the scared child inside of you because it controls your emotional wellbeing. If it is scared and stressed, your physical body is also stressed and your physical and mental, health will suffer. There are numerous benefits to giving every life event a positive spin.
You will need to remember this when the mind says, "Stop being in denial and accept the truth! Be an adult! Just grow up and accept the truth!
The mind must be reminded, it's not the adult part of you that is upset and having the issue.. it's the child.
If the truth of the current reality is too scary and overwhelming for the child to handle, you are going to have to "positive spin it". Trust me.
Be a loving, attentive baby sitter.
As soon as your ego or inner child gives signs of stress or upset, begin distraction techniques.
What would you do with a child who is scared and misses it's mother?
Get out the crayons, tell it a funny story, make it laugh, put it's favorite movie on?
What do all of these things have in common?
All are distractions away from the current reality that it's mom isn't around to give it love and comfort.
What you wouldn't do is show it photo's of it's mom. Talk constantly about her. Tell it sad, scary stories of how you are pretty sure she doesn't love it and is never coming back. You wouldn't tell it how she is probably off playing and giving love to some other child right now.
We wouldn't even think of being that cruel to a child but yet we tell those scary stories through thoughts to our own inner child.. then we wonder why we have so much fear, stress, anxiety, and dysfunction.
To love your Self is to love your child.
Angie Johnsey is a speaker, author and world-renowned Mind expert. A hypnotherapist and psychiatric nurse by trade, Angie assists clients all over the world to become aware of their mental and emotional patterns, bring clarity and peace to lives that were once full of stress and suffering, and choose the feelings they would like to have to transform their lives.