We look for and enter relationships looking for "the one"..the one to have that beautiful love experience with. However, if we enter that relationship without emotional maturity and being the master of our own mind, which most of us do, that relationship then serves as a teaching purpose. This relationship now becomes less about you having the perfect relationship with other people.. but about you learning to have the perfect relationship with yourself.
Until you heal your with relationship with you, you will be unable to love unconditionally. Why? Because you will believe you have unmet needs and are lacking something. Your mind will then try to use another person to meet those needs or make up for that lack. This is love based on a condition.
If you manage to stay in this teaching, learning, purification process with them, it's entirely possibly that you will reach a point where you learn to love you. Once you love yourself unconditional, you no longer need anything outside of yourself to make you feel better. You are the master of you. You need nothing from anyone. Once you reach this point in your growth, then you can interact with your mate or your relationships purely out of enjoyment and unconditional love. You can have that beautiful love experience with another person, but you have to heal from all of the lies you have believed about yourself, the lie that you are in need and incomplete, and truly love yourself first. Now you are free to love without fear. A.J.
Angie Johnsey is a speaker, author and world-renowned Mind expert. A hypnotherapist and psychiatric nurse by trade, Angie assists clients all over the world to become aware of their mental and emotional patterns, bring clarity and peace to lives that were once full of stress and suffering, and choose the feelings they would like to have to transform their lives.